Have you ever wonder how to impress a girl? Have you ever disappointed for not being impressed enough? If your answers are yes, then you need to understand more about girls. Your life would be a lot easier when u know in advance what turn on and off the girls. You can learn it from your own mistakes or you can learn it from successes and defeats of other men. Of course, the latter would be less painful. When you know how to impress a girl, you can easily double or triple your dating. No girl is out of your league. It is the art worth learning.
Every guy wants to be admired by the girl of his dream. But the sad truth is many guys don’t know how to impress a girl properly. Most people will advise you to well groom, make her laugh, act charming, compliment her sometimes and so on. Although being good advises, you may already know these are not enough when you deal with girls. But many a time, people are surprised to see a girl chose the mischievous Joe over nice and good-looking John. It is not uncommon that average Joe beats the rich Johnson in the race to win a gorgeous girl’s heart. Do these mean girls are not attracted to power and money? Absolutely not. They are also human beings. Riches and power do attract them. But they are more interested in how the guys make them feel. The key is if you are rich or powerful, use it smartly to your advantage. If not, don’t worry. There are tactics that can make a girl tick. Learn those skills. Girls are mysterious if you don’t understand that emotions and feeling take bigger roles in females than males. So take time to educate yourself about girls. Don’t worry it is not a rocket science but it is more rewarding. Life would be fantastic when you master it.
The first tip I like to give you is when you are trying to impress a girl, be natural, subtle and indirect. A handsome guy in my high school was frequently trying to impress girls. His ulterior motives were too visible that he was often turned down. No one likes obvious hard sell. So do it smartly. Always remember the best approaches are the most natural approaches.
Another tip to keep in mind is that whatever you do and whatever a girl’s response is, never think you are not good enough to impress her. Don’t let a girl’s preferences affect you in anyway. Don’t wait their approval and don’t change yourself. Guys who require validation are unimpressive and unattractive to girls.
Guys are like gas burner and girls are like electric oven. They need a little more time to warm up. So don’t be too hurry. It may make an impression of being needy. Build rapport and develop trust first. Make her feel comfortable around you, this will bring down her psychological defenses. It is not a war but, like in a war, it is a lot easier to handle when the other party put his shield down. I will show you how to do it properly in separate post.
Every girl and their preferences are unique. What impress a girl may not do so another girl. But there are still a lot of common themes. They love to watch drama, are in search of romance, want to be emotionally stimulated and so on. Girls are interested in opposite sex as much as boys do. The most important common thing is that females are impressed with alpha male personality, and girls are not exception. Alpha males trigger a special feeling inside females. These females want to be cherished by the strong guy who is also dependable, capable of protecting and providing for families.
So what is an alpha male? Alpha males are usually referred to the lead guys in their group – the courageous strong guy who is in charge of a group or tribe or community. But there are good news. First, you can learn to develop alpha personalities. Second, we guys don’t need to be an alpha male in the class nor alpha male of the country to impress a girl. The catch is if a guy can trigger the special feeling what alpha personality trigger, he is as attractive to girls as alpha. So while you are developing alpha personality, learn to trigger that feeling in the girl you want to impress. Followings are the essence of a man that will trigger alpha effect.
- Demonstration of leadership
- Social image
- Being her safe haven
- Emotional stimulation
Confidence is the essence of a man. If a man doesn’t have self-confidence, he won’t be able to impress a girl. Girls usually have a better antenna than guys and they can sense whether a guy has faith in himself or not. They won’t respect a man with no courage. In case you are not confident enough, learn to build it. No matter what you are, you are deserved to be a confident strong man. Learn to awaken the giant within you. Learn to polish the unnoticed hidden gems inside you. I will write how to seek and unleash it step by step in separate posts. Always remember confident guy is more attractive than a handsome one with low self-esteem. When you have enough confidence, it will shine through, and girls will notice it. This is how to impress a girl fast.
Demonstration of leadership: Whenever or wherever you wonder how to impress a girl, ask yourself “how should I demonstrate leadership here”. Then show it in subtle way. Always lead her, but aware not to become bossy. Lead her physically to a place. Lead her in conversation. Lead and help her to come to a decision. Actively help her overcome what she afraid of. Be decisive in your words, opinions and actions. But let me remind again, be a leader not a boss. Let me give you another example. When you are going out in group, care your target but don’t forget to care the group. Make sure everyone feel included. After eating dinner in a restaurant and when the bill comes, you should be the one who collects money from others. You should be the lead to complain in case any discrepancy is found with bills. All these small things will contribute to your demonstration of leadership.
Social Image: Girls are usually not impressed with guys of low social standing. Those who seemed popular and desirable are more attractive to them. So take good care of your social image. Show her you get along well with your friends and have a lot of friends. Make friends not only to enjoy and hang along but also to increase your base of power. Surrounding yourself with both male and female friends will help you advance your social standings. When there are female friends around, you are assumed to be safe by girls faster. Unconsciously, they will lower their shield quicker. Moreover girls usually want other girls want. This is an added advantage if you use it properly.
Safe Haven: Make her feel you are her emotional and physical safe haven. When you two cross the street, stay between her and coming vehicle. When you are in a small boat trip, take care of her life jacket first before minding yours. Protect and stand up for her from any verbal or physical attack. When she feels you are the source of emotional and physical security, she will chase you and you are on the stage. Instead of asking yourself how to impress a girl, consider a way to make her feel you are her safe haven.
Emotional stimulation: Girls are more interested in the way you make them feel rather than your looks and money. If you can fulfill their emotional needs, you can easily surpass those guys who are more famous, more handsome and richer than you. So how would you stimulate her emotions? Let me point out some top tips. Use Humor, romance, surprises, creativity, intelligence, mystery, unpredictability, attention, care etc. They love to laugh. They are delighted to see hearts and flowers. Instead of directly saying I love you all the time, make some surprises by placing a heart or flowers with your love notes where she wouldn’t expect. Never be boring. Girls are usually more curious than guys. A little mystery and some unpredictability also boost attraction. They want to tease and be teased. They are longing for a caring lover. Listen to her problems and concern. But don’t provide solutions immediately. Unlike guys, girls are not usually asking for solutions, they are seeking someone who can hear them and who care them. Only after they felt heard, they are ready to listen to solutions. There’s a saying “A girl will never trade a good therapist for a boyfriend”. When you understand what a girl needs and wants, then give her positive emotions, you will become irresistible to her.